my girls room. . .
my room. . .
my bathroom. . .
my kitchen. . .
my office. . .
the rest of my house. . .
- So, if you know anything about me, you know this is a big deal.
- My house MUST be clean.
- I have a husband who demands it.
- I'm going to fix this, but I've got to be accountable to someone/thing.
- Ben usually comes home for lunch, but I've invited him to stay at work today.
- We're not friends in this moment.
- I guess my blog will have to do.
- It seems to be the only thing out there that listens and cares lately.
- My life is in shambles.
- Literally.
- I have way too much to do to -
- and that list doesn't include this house.
- I have a Halloween Carnival that I am in charge of tomorrow
- and I am completely paralyzed right now.
- Something has got to give.
- What's it gonna be?
- How do you balance your kids,
- your housework,
- your calling,
- your health,
- your sanity?
- I need some pretty great ideas.
- So, comment away. . . please.
- And I will be posting pictures to prove that I can conquer this house.
- This is embarrassing.
- Humiliating, really.
4 comments:
baby steps, delegating, and for future use, learning to say no when I'm at my limit.
You'll get through this. You'll pull it off fabulously AND until then, what would you like me to take over?
It's not humiliating..what it does is make the rest of us feel like we're not the only ones with a messy house sometimes!! I can never figure out how some people seem to always have it ALL together..if my house gets cleaned, it means the kids were ignored..if the house is messy, it means the kids and I had fun all day. If I manage to do both, it means I'm exhausted from lack of sleep to get it all done:) But seriously..please call me so we can help with tomorrow!
I'm just trying to get over the idea that you have a husband that demands a clean house. I don't think my husband would even notice if I boycotted housework for a year. Well, he might notice, but I doubt he'd do anything about it.
I wish I had some clever answers or words of wisdom for you. Life is a balancing act and sometimes somethings have got to give. Just like you said. At least it is your house and your kids aren't starving or being beaten or neglected instead. They are loved.
If I know I'm going to be cleaning the house for a while, I'll give my kids an activity to do in the meantime, or I'll have them "help" me clean. Make a game of it. Sometimes it takes a little more effort to do it that way at first when it is a lot easier to just do it yourself, but it helps me calm down and not get angry at everyone for making the messes in the first place. (because it's hardly ever me making the messes that I clean up)
Chin up, girl! Don't be embarrassed or humiliated. You are a mother to three darling girls and you have a lot on your plate. ASK FOR HELP! That is my advice. I remember before we moved to England and I was trying to sell everything we owned, pack the rest, get visas and passports, take care of two kids, find a place to live in England, etc. I was overwhelmed and completely paralyzed. I sat on my couch and literally couldn't move. I cried for a while and then picked up the phone to reach out for help from my loved ones. And they were there in a heart beat! Let hubby know how you feel. Sometimes it helps to just vent and figure out how you can get on the same page. Kristian and I struggled a lot in those months before England. We had to come to a head and I had to let him know how I felt. It helped a great deal.
Anyway...longest comment ever. I love you tons!! You've been on my mind the last couple of days. I wish I were close so I could come help you tackle your paralysis. You are a strong, amazing woman! Go get 'em!
Honestly, it don't look that bad! Mostly looks like you need more space--which I totally understand. I do a good job of closing my kids' bedroom doors. Now that they are older it should be better but the one thing I've learned is that I can't force them to be organized and neat. It's just not going to happen. They have to clean their bedrooms once a week and that's the only time I insist on it being clean.
What to do? Now that I'm working outside the home almost everyday, my hubby and kiddos are forced to help out more. I wish I would have insisted years ago. I know your kids are still young but don't be afraid to delegate to them as they get older. Mine are so much more capable than I ever thought they could be.
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